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Success Stories
Inspiring words from amazing people...
July 18, 2008
To the Fabulous Cindy Soper, The first thing we want to say is Thank You....Thank You....Thank You. We can not describe how grateful we are to have you in our lives. Not only did you do your job, but we have gained a friend. Two weeks with just a name and one day of talking to you and working on it together and you found not only my husbands mother, but a alive and well Grandfather, and Grandmother. 3 for 1 ! We were overwhelmed with tears, fear, happiness, excitment, and pure joy. My husbands story is like no other so taking on this case was a tough and emotional one I know. I want you to know that I have looked for over 5 years for his mother and never got further than her name. You are truely amazing, and I will recomend you to my best friend who is an attorney, and to anyone else who needs your services. We have only talked to Mom, and Grandpa so far, but my husband hearing his mothers voice for the first time will forever be the happiest day of his life...and its all because of you Cindy. We are taking a trip up to meet Mom and Grandma in one month and we are all excited. After everything my husband has been through in his life, this has been the door that has been shut for 31 years, and has now opened into a new world of happiness. You are his angel, and he truly deserves one. We will keep in touch for sure to let you know how everything goes. Thank you again. You are amazng.
Chris, Shelly, Gaven, Nolen, and Daegen Vanausdoll
June 19, 2008
I cannot tell you how amazing my experience with Cindy Soper and my search for my half-brother turned out to be!
I truly felt that I had reached a dead end, and that finding a needle in a haystack would have been a simple task…….that’s how defeated I felt.
Well, after several months had passed since my last communication with Cindy, I really felt this search could take a very long time; there was nothing much to go on. Then, on a Saturday morning when I least expected it, (truly), I had a voice mail message from Cindy telling me she had located a last name for my brother…….my three and a half year search had never come close to producing that important piece of information. You can only imagine my emotions……exhilaration, tears, a little bit of reservation, and I can’t tell you begin to describe the rest of the emotions……
Well, from that point forward the search jumped into high gear and within six weeks we were ready to contact my brother. As it turned out, my brother had passed away eight years prior, but I have since talked to his wife/widow and their son. My contacting them has resulted in a positive and welcoming response from them. We have shared pictures and are planning to meet soon…….
While my results were bittersweet, nonetheless I am overjoyed and so very pleased that my brother would have welcomed all of this as his parents did not share any information with him. He had found out when he was fourteen that he was adopted and passed away at the age of fifty-eight.
I have to share how much Cindy means to me. While we have never met face-to-face, I know in my heart I have a friend! She is a great person; compassionate, friendly, responsive and very good at what she does. I can tell it’s her passion!
I have probably thanked Cindy a million times and don’t feel it’s enough. She is a remarkable person, and I am so pleased to have the opportunity to share my experience with her.
Thank you Cindy and God Bless you and all you do for others!!!!!!
Leslie
April 8, 2008
I highly recommend Cindy Soper's services, especially for those looking for their adoptive parents. She is a very professional yet personable detective that I felt comfortable dealing with despite the scary nature that finding your birth mom can be. Within three days of contacting Cindy, she was hard at work on my case and unbelievably, had already located my birthmom. Cindy helped me to understand the seriousness of my decision to meet my birthmom and took every measure to ensure that her information was accurate before getting my hopes up. She is very kind and fair for the work that she does. Cindy even served as a go-between for my birth mom and myself to help ease out the nervousness before we met. I could tell through our phone conversations that she is passionate about her job and she understands the nature of adoption from both perspectives given her years of experience. For anyone that is looking for birth parents or in need of detective work in general, I highly recommend Cindy Soper and the TIPS detectives. She really made a very stressful experience ease on me and I appreciate it.
Heidi Nielsen
Michigan
March 28, 2008
Dear Cindy,
For as long as I can remember, I knew something in my life was slightly askew. My birth-parents told me that I was adopted as soon as they were sure I could fully comprehend/appreciate an idea of that magnitude. With them, I always came off as sort of an oddball in the family; it seemed like some of my comments, concerns, actions, etc. went right over their heads. This would often leave me with some kind of faceless, somewhat alienated, feeling, and I would end up spending hours alone in my room watching T.V. instead of enjoying a sunny afternoon with my adopted family. It happened to be this kind of an upbringing that laid the foundation for one of the most monumental journeys of my lifetime.
Starting with a vague idea of what I wanted to accomplish in the next few months, I searched the web for “adoption,” and luckily stumbled upon TipsDetective.com. After filling out a quick, and to the point questionnaire regarding my history, I was quickly directed to Sue Brassel. I was impressed with how quickly Sue was able to analyze the situation, and gather any and all available information needed to make the search as quick and painless as possible.
Roughly two and a half weeks later, Sue had located my birth-mother; and made a very happy Easter for a lucky family. This has made such a profound impact on my life; I would recommend this service to everyone who shared a similar situation. I owe all the thanks in the world to Tips Detective, and Sue Brassel.
– Robert Mitchell, age 22, and now reunited with my family
March 26, 2008
Cindy,
Several times during the way we ask ourselves: why are we in this world, and if we have a specific mission to accomplish. Yes, those are the times when we look inside of us and reflect about our experiences, our life and about the ones we love and have already part.
It was one of these moments that I realized the need to help my mother in law search for her birth mom, and my husband to look for his grandmother. I felt her, some how near, or maybe that feeling was something spiritual indicating this was the exact moment to look for her.
Once I had her consent, I spent too many hours searching in different web sites, reading name by name, cause the only information we had at that time was her birth name, the place and city were she was adopted. Months went by, until I had this idea to look at the city's government web page in order to find out the requirements necessary to unseal her adoption records. At the end of that page there was the name of a recommended detective (Cindy Soper), specialized in gathering families. So I said to myself, if she is being recommended by the own government, well she must be pretty professional and trustful!! That is when I first contact Cindy by email at the end of June 2007. She answered me right away, asking several questions surrounding the adoption.
I didn't really know how easy was going to be, because we live in Mexico City, so this was going to be an international search!
When I told Lety, my mother in law, about all this questions, she asked me to let her see the government web page and Cindy's whereabouts. I entered the Internet, and when I looked for the information, Gosh she wasn't there anymore!!!! (Was this destiny and meant to be? I do think so. It was one of Gods mysterious acts). Still, we got this good feeling that everything was going to turn up excellent, so we continue our communication with Cindy.
Even though emails feel kind of impersonal, my husband and me felted pretty supportive and enthusiastic by Cindy during all the process. But for me, the most important thing was that I felted warmed with her words and with a very spiritual touch that didn't find in other adoptive web pages. You know, now a days, it's hard to find people who can commit to someone else personal dilemma, and of course she is one of a kind. She is just so adorable, kind, comprehensive, that all this words are not enough to describe our feeling for her.
On October the 31st I received an email of her, telling that she had located information and that we needed to talk by phone. We were all exited, nervous, our harts just went crazy and of course tears rolled down our happy and joyful faces. It was until the 1st of December that we had this massage from Cindy at our answered machine, asking to called her back cause she had contact our uncle, yes Lety's brother.
Can you believe it!!!!! After so long, and after so many dreams it just came true. It was almost impossible to believe it. When my husband and I called her, and heard Cindy's excitement and happiness, we just couldn't hold it anymore, we turn into joyful tears, but also with a profound sadness.... We found out that Grand ma (Lety's mom) had passed away. God knows, that was so hard to assimilate, but when Cindy told us that she found not one brother, nor two but seven Lety's brothers and sisters, our sadness turned into new expectations and dreams. Boy, we have a huge family!
When we spoke to our uncle and aunts, we learned that they as well looked for Lety for many years, and it wasn't until a blessed by God detective (Cindy) made the dream come true!! Yes, it was just meant to be.
Thanks Cindy for your help and most of all for your LOVE. I am sure that there will come a special day to gather with you, and just share with you our love and happiness.
God bless you and your family.
With love,
Yvonne your friend from Mexico City.
March 26, 2008
Dear Cindy.
I can not thank you enough for the help you gave me in the search of my birthmom. Evendo there was a huge amount of miles and diffrence in time between Cindy and me she mannaged to locate my birthmother and made sure that the communication between me and my birthmom would go smouthly. The moment that Cindy called me was one of the most beatiful times of my life. As adoptie you always miss something and ever since I have talking with my birthmom that something is gone! Thanks to Cindy!!! I hope to see my birthmom in juli/august (after 24.5 year) because she asked me to give her away on her wedding!!! That's something! I would recomend everybody who is looking for family to use the noledge of Cindy!
Cindy and Sue again thank you so much you have changed my life!
Hidde Hollander
Amsterdam.The Netherlands
January 16, 2008
Sue & Cindy,
When I was first contacted by you I thought that someone was playing a very cruel joke on me, because I was told that I would never have any contact with my son.
Being a birth-Mother is the most heartbreaking thing in the world. You have carried a child inside of you for nine months feeling the love grow only to have him taken away. It was like having a part of my heart ripped out of me. The pain was so intense that the only way to deal with it was to bury it so deep inside of me so that nothing could touch it and I knew that I would never be whole again.
Then out of the blue you find out that your son has been looking for you. Talk about truly overwhelming and scary at the same time. I think I went through every emotion you could think of. I was terrified that if we ever really met that he would hate me and that there would be a lot of guilt and blame. That first phone call was so awkward for me, and I'm sure for him too. It was hard to introduce yourself to someone you could only ever dream about.
I feel like I am the luckiest person in the world to have a second chance with my son. My heart is so full of joy, it is like I have been made whole again and my heart has mended. I have missed out on so much in his life. Not being there to see him grow into the man that he is today. Missing out on all the firsts in his life, the ups and downs of growing into a man. Missing his wedding and the births of my grandchildren. There are too many things that I missed out on that I can never get back, but I have been given an incredible opportunity to have a new beginning with my son and his family. The chance to get to know the man he has become and to know his family.
Every time I talk to Ken or get an e-mail from him he amazes me. Our relationship is in the very early stages but it just keeps getting better and better all the time. I loved him from the beginning and I always will.
My advice to those out there wondering if you should be found, believe me you have nothing to lose and everything in the world to gain. This has been a truly rewarding experience for me.
Lois Johnson
Washington
November 17, 2007
Several years ago I began a search for my wife's birth mother. She mentioned that she would like to have some medical history, since we now had daughters of our own. That is how it all started. Over the years I had requested non-identifying information from our State Department of Vital Statistics not once, but twice. We had her family's surname and the place of birth, so we thought we could complete a search on our own, especially given all of the information that is available on the internet today. We also petitioned our District Court to open the records, but the petition was denied because the biological parents could not be located for consent and their privacy was given the highest priority. Our efforts yielded some information, but nothing substantial. In the meantime my wife and I made the decision to adopt a child of our own. One day while reading an article about adoption I found a link to tipsdetective.com and sent an email inquiring about their services. Cindy Soper promptly emailed back and soon I spoke to her by phone. I immediately felt comfortable with Cindy and she went right to work. She and her staff are extremely professional in the way they carry out their business and being touched by adoption in their own families, they are sensitive to issues facing both sides of the investigation. I faxed several documents to Cindy and through emails and phone calls, it was discovered that the non-identifying information given to us by the state was completely incorrect. We had been told the birth mother was born in 1948 and was the youngest of three female siblings. Through True Investigative and Paralegal Services we discovered the birth mother was born in 1947 and was the oldest of three female siblings and a brother. We had previously based our search on this information. We also were able to secure the original birth certificate with the birth mother's full name and have just recently located her. My wife and her birth mother have now consented to make contact with one another and are beginning that process now. We are convinced that without Cindy and hard working people on her staff such as Sue Brassel we never would have completed this search. I consider Cindy to be a friend and plan to join her as an advocate to ensure that non-identifying information from all state agencies is completely open and accurate.
Mitchell Galyen
Texas
November 14, 2007
I just wanted to thank you again for helping us in the search for Ken's birthmother. After searching for many years for my husband's birth mother, and feeling very discouraged I came across Cindy's website. I sent our information in to what I thought would be another dead end or a scam of some kind. Within a day I had a reply back from Cindy by e-mail saying it would be possible to locate Ken's birthmother. The following week I received a call from Cindy asking if we wanted to go ahead. That was in August 2007 and by November 2007 we were sending a letter to my husband's birthmother. Through out those few months Cindy was very professional and hard working yet always concerned about everyone's feelings, as we did have a few roadblocks to get around. She always kept us informed as to what was happening and put up with me when I was impatient. I always looked forward to seeing Kansas on my call display. I would recommend to anyone that is searching for someone in their lives to use Cindy Soper.
Lisa Woodruff
British Columbia
November 8, 2007
When we decided to look for my birth mother, my husband and I thought we could do it on our own. After all, we had a last name and non-identifying information to go on. Little did we know how difficult this would prove to be. After several months and many dead ends my husband contacted Cindy Soper at True Investigative and Paralegal Services. Through their knowledge and resources they were able to locate the person we were seeking. Cindy quickly became someone we felt we could trust, and we knew she and her staff would not give up. Without the help of True Investigative and Paralegal Services we never would have located her. It turns out that a lot of information we had received from our State Dept. of Vital Statistics was incorrect, and had it not been for strategies used by TIPS we could have been searching forever. Thanks to the help we received, contact with my birth mother has been established and I am excited to begin learning new information to pass along to my children.
Karen Galyen
Texas
June 26, 2007
I just wanted to sincerely thank you for all your help finding my biological sisters. I have been searching for so many years, and have always given up. I've registered at every adoption registry, and left my name and number with various people who said they would help.....(yeah, for $49.95) I also have subscribed to several search sites, who GUARANTEED results. I have spent a lot of money. I have wasted money. It makes you very, very skeptical when you don't get what you think you will get!
That is why I was so very surprised when you called me after I left my name and number on your website!
I was not expecting a reply so quickly- nor did I expect a phonecall! I just figured it was one more place I could leave my name. What I received was a million times more precious than my expectations! Not only did you take a personal interest in my search, but we also developed a friendship, that I hope we maintain.
You helped me find my family after a 42 yr search, and for that I am so grateful.
I now have sisters! I know about the biological parents,and have a name for the biofather. I have aunts and uncles and cousins and nieces and nephews! My sisters want to have a relationship with me, and they have filled the hole I had in my heart my whole life! Thank you for helping me! Thank you for helping me to become a whole person. Thank you for your kindness, and THANK YOU for making the first contact! That makes things so much easier!
You have been my angel, and I will always be grateful!
Mary Coolman
Clearwater, Florida
June 26, 2007
I was born to Shirley and Bob Quenell on January 2, 1986. Considering they were just barely 20 years old, and trying to raise their other infant daughter, Leighanne, they put me up for adoption. I was adopted by Kathy & Tom, two of the best parents any child who is adopted could have. Mom and Dad have always told me I was adopted, and have always told me how much my biological mom loved me. They told me when the time was right and I was of legal age, they'd help me search for her.
I found Cindy and her website completely by accident. However, when I came across it, there was something telling me to put my name and information in the database. So I did, and then forgot about it for a few days, until Cindy called me back on May 12th. She told me she didn't think it would take too long to find my family. I confronted my parents about it on May 14th (it took me a few days to build up the courage to do it) My mom was a bit skeptical of it at first, because there's so many people being scammed out there - but once she spoke to Cindy, her fears were completely put to rest, and the search began.
Once we began searching, my parents finally came clean and told me about my sister Leighanne. They had never told me about her before because they didn't want me to feel un-wanted - because Shirley and Bob had and kept Leighanne but then gave me up. I was so excited to find out I had a big sister!
It only took until June 6th, for Cindy to find them. She found my sister Leighanne's former job, and spoke to one of the girls she used to work with. The girl got in contact with my sister right away, and immediately my sister knew what it was about. The next morning, (June 7th) Cindy got a call bright and early from my birthmother. She was so excited to hear we were looking for her!!
Not only did we find my birthmother and my sister Leighanne, but we also found my younger brother Michael and my little sister Melissa! Michael is Shirley and Bob's son, Melissa is Shirley and her 2nd husbands daughter. I went from being an only child, to a the 2nd of two, to the 2nd of four!!
I spoke to Leighanne at 9am that morning, right after Cindy called and told us that she heard from everyone. Leighanne and I clicked immediately - I knew the two of us were going to have a really special relationship. I spoke to my birthmom, Shirley, at 6:30pm that evening, when she got home from work. It was very emotional, but it was one of the best phone conversations I've ever had.
On June 15th, my parents and I flew up to Rochester to meet everyone. We were all welcomed into their home and hearts with wide open arms. My siblings and I got along fantastically - and now I have a hard time imagining my life without them! Shirley and I bonded as soon as we saw each other.
My mom and Shirley became fast friends - they sat and talked the entire weekend. Shirley couldn't believe how supportive my parents were of me looking for them. Actually, come to think of it, not many people can believe it. I was really lucky... there's plenty of adoptees out there whos parents are totally against them searching for their biological family - but all I had to do was say I wanted to and my parents jumped at the oppertunity.
It also helped that we had the most AMAZING investigater on our team! Cindy was sooo helpful and supportive during the whole thing. She kept in contact constantly and made sure that we were aware of every step she was doing. And the whole process only took her 3 weeks! She's really become a part of our extended family.
Now that the chaos and insanity from the past weekend has subsided, I'm settling into a routine of speaking to my new family daily, and planning a trip back up there soon (and trying to get them to come down to NYC!) We're all bonding, and getting a feel for each other, and really becoming a FAMILY. It's amazing. Thats the only way I can put it.
Erin Bolin
Rochester, New York
June 26, 2007
I first spoke to Cindy Soper on May 14, 2007, when my daughter Erin who is 21 told me she was searching for her birth parents. We supported her because we felt it was important for her to know her roots, but I wanted to talk to Cindy to make sure it was on the up and up. When I finished talking to her I was totally amazed how caring she was for the adoptee. Many adoptees and birth families are taken advantage of. I spoke to Cindy again the next evening to let her know some vital information regarding Erin's birth family. First of all she has an older sister who is 2 years older than her, which she was not aware of. When I told Cindy this information she suggested how we tell her. We had a picture of her sister when she was two and Cindy suggested we wrap it up give it to her as a gift. It was the best advice ever. WE were always going to tell Erin about her sister when the time was right and we knew this was the right time. Once Erin knew about her sister, Cindy started the search and kept us up to date at all times. On June 6, 2007, three weeks after Cindy intensified the search we received a call from her letting us know she had spoke to Erin's birth Mom and sister. It was such a wonderful moment in our lives. Erin spoke to her sister that morning and her birth Mom that evening.
On June 15, 2007, we flew to Rochester for Erin to meet her birth Mom, her older sister and a younger brother and sister. Erin did not stop smiling all weekend. Only way to describe this weekend is that it was one of the most amazing times of our lives.
If it was not for Cindy's determination and caring this weekend might never of have happened where two families merged into one. Our only regret was that Cindy could not be with us to share in the moment.
We will be forever grateful to Cindy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Kathy and Tom Bolin
New York City, New York
April 6, 2007
Never say, "It will never happen!" Before you give up all hope of finding someone important in your life, give Cindy an opportunity to do the unimaginable - allow her to find the one you are searching for! Before I met Cindy Soper, I truly believed that my sister's daughter of 26 years would never be found. This testimony will sound too good to be true, but believe me, I experienced it first hand. From the first few minutes of my conversation with Cindy, she planted a seed of hope that my niece could very well be located. If anything she would try to get a first and last name. Cindy was so great to work with. Her genuine passion and concern for what she does was immediately expressed to me. We hit it off right away. She is very easy to talk to and is very good with details. She works fast, too! I was amazed how quickly she found my niece. She truly was an angel sent to me in answer to a long awaited prayer. Here is the miracle Cindy helped make happen: My sister gave her baby for adoption in 1980. It was a closed adoption through a private adoption agency. It had been bittersweet from the getgo. Through the years she tried to make contact with the adoptive parents, but they did not want any part of it. My sister settled for less and assumed she would never be able to ever meet her daughter in person. The case closed when she reached 18, which also closed all hope for my sister. Only until March of 2007, did I have a hunch that maybe my niece would be found. American Adoptions, Inc. forwarded Cindy's name to me and since then life has been even more wonderful! What made this case so unique for Cindy is that, one) usually the birth mom does the initial contact-it was me instead, two) my sister could never have any more children of her own (she gave away her only biological child), three) my sister was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer but is now cancer-free, and four) for 26 years my sister anguished over never being able to locate her only biological child. Therefore, Cindy was on a mission of the heart! She really wanted this all to work out (like a good friend would do), and it did!!! I still can't believe it! Her intentions were never for just the money and to drag it out as long as possible. Her fee was very reasonable and her timeliness was absolutely incredible. From beginning to end, it took approximately three weeks! I am forever indebted to Cindy Soper and her ability to do the unbelievable. Take my word.
Lisa Schechter
Columbus, Ohio
February 20, 2007
I am proud and fortunate to have met and worked with Cindy Soper on the search for my biological mother-which started a little over a year ago. Adopted at birth, 34 years later I decided that I wanted to make contact with the woman who gave me life. Having originally hired another investigator, she turned me over to Cindy a couple of months later.
Cindy was wonderful to work with! She's very professional, vibrant and energetic, sensitive yet aggressive, determined and extremely persistent and she has a true gift when it comes to dealing with or finding people. I believe that she was born to bring people together. Thanks to her determined persistence, I spoke to my birth mother for the first time just 9 days ago and to my grandfather just last night. I never imagined that my life could be filled with this much love! She truly made me and my "new" family a bunch of the happiest people alive. For this I know we will forever be grateful.
Marla Palma
Winchester, Virginia
(and I happened to make one INCREDIBLE friend on the way!)
May 15, 2006
I would like to highly recommend Cindy Soper of True Investigative and Paralegal Services based on the investigation that was done for me.
I asked Ms. Soper to do a Background Investigation on a person relating to verification of educational credentials, any information that could help to determine the character of this individual and criminal records if any.
Ms. Soper's report was very enlightening and extremely in depth. Her investigation uncovered Bankruptcies, Sanctioning and Disbarment from Bar Association and all documents from the State Supreme Court showing Orders of Sanctions and Disbarment also licensing in several states was investigated. Corporate Affiliations and Disposition of Corporations were obtained as well as Criminal and Civil Records from four local counties including case numbers and a summary of the important facts of each case.
One very important feature of her investigation was that when one lead was discovered rather than stopping, she continued to investigate and uncovered more information. Through this type of excellent work, she found a case which had just led to a conviction of this individual. All court documents were presented to me related to this court case and conviction.
Ms. Soper interviewed former partners and business associates to obtain information regarding business ethics and behaviors which proved to be very enlightening. This also led to obtaining divorce records of this person to determine a pattern of behavior.
I would highly recommend Cindy Soper and True Investigative and Paralegal Services to conduct a thorough, comprehensive and in depth investigation.
Robin Clayton
February 10, 2006
I will never forget the morning Cindy Soper called me to say that she had contacted my birthmother. Ever since that day things have changed in a positive way. Without her help this could have never happened. Cindy's concern and compassion truely shine through. I appreciate everything she has done and am very grateful. The joy I feel in my heart is indescribable!
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!
Cathy Gross
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